A veterinarian for whom I once worked used to frequently repeat: “Communication is a difficult thing.” There are no truer words. I have often observed two people who thought they were communicating well with each other, only to see that they did not understand each other at all. It’s a fascinating circumstance to watch.
If communicating with other humans is difficult, how do we imagine that we can communicate effectively with another species, especially one that is not even a mammal?
The effectiveness and quality of our communication with our own parrots is a subject worthy of ongoing exploration. Evidence of this is the often heard statement, “He bit me with NO warning!”
If you scroll through any parrot-related Facebook feed, you would be led to believe that behavior problems like screaming and biting are just a normal part of living with parrots. This is not true.
Behavior Problems = Communication Problems
The majority of behavior problems in parrots are, in reality, communication problems. This is especially true for screaming, biting and fear-based behaviors.
We cannot have good relationships with people or parrots without effective communication. Historically, we have primarily communicated with our birds through the provision of physical affection, talking conversationally, and attempts to punish undesirable behavior. These efforts at relationship building miss the mark completely.
Why? Physical affection communicates to parrots the wrong message – that we offer the possibility to them of a pair bond. This in itself leads to several different behavior problems. It also teaches dependence, rather than independence.
Talking to them doesn’t result in any particular adverse consequences, but what does it really accomplish? How valuable is it to a parrot when we talk? It might be mildly entertaining to have us yakking away at them, but are we really getting any important message across?
Lastly, “punishment” is ineffective in the manner in which it is most often used. For example, covering a screaming bird’s cage is typically something they don’t mind at all. We might intend for it to communicate to the bird that its noise is an undesirable behavior, but the message doesn’t get across. Further, effective punishment will create distrust and fear. That’s not where we want to be in our relationships with our bird.
How Do We Listen to a Parrot?
Good communication with any species requires both talking and listening. But, how do we listen to a parrot?
The answer? We must read body language. Body language is the only way that parrots have to communicate their feelings to us.
The next important question is, “How do we talk to another species so that understanding is ensured? The answer to that is “We use positive reinforcement!” We need to be clear communicators when interacting with our parrots so that they understand which behaviors will help them to be successful in our homes – which behaviors will earn them what they really want.
Thus, success with our parrots depends upon two things: (1) listening to what they have to tell us by reading body language, and (2) communicating to them through the use of positive reinforcement.
Reading Body Language
When it comes to reading body language, it helps to understand the differences that may be present depending upon the part of the world in which the parrot originated. For many years, parrots have been informally relegated to two different groups – New World parrots and Old World parrots.
Old World parrots derived from Africa, Asia and Europe. Examples of these species would be cockatoos, African Greys, cockatiels, ring-necked parakeets, Eclectus, Poicephalus, and lovebirds. The body language of these species often tends to be more subtle in nature.
Conversely, New World parrots that come from the Americas, tend to have more overt or dramatic body language. Examples include Amazon parrots, conures, caiques, parrotlets, Pionus parrots, monk parakeets and macaws. Both parrots in the photos are indicating interest, but it is more obvious in the macaw.
Keep in mind that is only a generalization. The body language that any individual displays will depend more upon his previous learning history (his socialization) than upon his species. However, this information can be helpful.
It teaches us, for example, that we must anticipate that an Amazon is not going to communicate in the same way that an African grey communicates. An Amazon who intends aggression will typically let you know in a more pronounced manner with pinning eyes, flared tail and raised feathers on the back of his head. The African grey who feels the same may only raise the feathers on his shoulders slightly and look at you with a bit more intensity.
This information also suggests that living without problems with our parrots will hinge upon building our own skills of observation, since each species with whom we interact will likely have a different style of communication. Therefore, we learn to take nothing for granted. Each new individual will need the same careful “get-to-know-you” observations that we used with the last.
Parrots and Emotions
The presence of emotions in animals and birds has long been the subject of much discussion. (I have listed a few reliable references below.) And, as often happens in a new area of exploration for truth, the pendulum of opinion has swung from one extreme to the other.
For some years now, the attribution of emotions to animals was often met with the accusation that the speaker was being anthropomorphic, assigning human characteristics to the animals under discussion. However, researchers are now taking this subject more seriously. Frans De Waal has given us the books Are We Smart Enough to Know How Smart Animals Are? and Mama’s Last Hug, for example. Both discuss the emotions of animals in a very convincing manner.
Finally, “hard science”has met “soft science” and now many are admitting that animals have emotions, possibly the same emotions that we experience as humans. Anyone who has lived with parrots knows this from experience. They are by nature incredibly social, sentient, and expressive.
The list of emotions now attributed to animals is surprisingly long. I found a more distilled list that includes: happiness, anger, disgust, fear, sadness, and surprise. However, labels often fail us and these are labels. What does happiness look like in a parrot? What does sadness look like?
I think it makes sense instead to begin our exploration of how parrots express their emotions by first observing their body language in a variety of contexts and then doing our best to gather enough anecdotal evidence that we can correctly evaluate it and interpret it, thereby achieving some general agreement and creating a reference.
When I did this myself, I came to the conclusion that the parrots I have known had communicated to me, by using body language, the following: well-being or happiness, interest, disinterest, alarm or surprise, fear or aversion, heightened arousal, anger or “go away,” and sexual interest or romantic love.
Obviously, there are likely to be other emotional states that I have not listed. However, parrots have few facial muscles for exhibiting expressions, unlike our mammal friends. Therefore, reading their messages may be a bit more challenging. They use primarily three forms of body language to communicate. When we make observations, we have three main areas to examine: their eyes, feather position, and body position.
Interpreting the Eyes
Parrots will communicate in very subtle ways with their eyes and it can take experience to learn to read them. The most obvious change in a parrot’s eyes is called “pinning.” When a parrot pins his eyes, he alternately contacts and expands his pupils. This may last for just a brief few seconds, or can go on for a full minute or two.
Eye shape is a much more subtle change. A parrot’s eyes may appear round at some times and more almond-shaped at others. In my experience, there can also be a change in the expression behind the eyes, which can range from a very soft and relaxed appearance to a hard stare.
Interpreting Feather Position
Observing feather position contributes to the information base we accumulate when we read body language. A parrot may hold his contour feathers over his body in a tight, slicked-down manner or in a more relaxed, inflated way with a little air trapped behind them.
Movement of specific feather groups often tells a more obvious story. Some parrots will fan their tail feathers outward, raise their crests, or raise certain areas of feathers over their bodies.
Interpreting Body Position
Body position gives us even more overt details. Parrots may lean toward or away from us, stand up tall, hide, or stand with one foot held upward against the body. All of these changes tell a story.
Thus, when we read avian body language, we must look at each of these three areas, ask ourselves what we are seeing, and then assimilate this information so that we can interpret what that parrot may be trying to tell us.
Signs of Well-being or Happiness
Signs that a parrot is experiencing a state of happiness or well-being might include the following:
- Shoulder raise (both wings being raised in unison and then lowered)
- Unilateral (the parrot stretches out both wing and leg on the same side at the same time.)
- Tail wags
- Feathers relaxed
- Eyes soft and almond-shaped
- Beak grinding
- Rough out (whole body shake out)
- Head bobbing
- Preening (not excessive)
- Cheek feathers covering beak (cockatoos)
Expressions of Interest
- Leaning or moving toward us or an item without signs of “anger” – see below
- Eager look to the face and eyes
- Contour feathers relaxed
- Crest up (cockatoos or cockatiels)
Signs of Disinterest
- Turning or physically moving away
- Flying away
- Preening as you attempt to engage socially
- Eating treats very slowly when trying to train
Signs of Surprise or Alarm
- Raised crest
- Rounded eyes
- Raised wings
- Looking skyward
- Standing up very tall
- Feathers slicked down
- Sharp calls
Signs of Fear or Aversion
- Round eyes
- Beak slightly open
- Standing up very straight
- Contour feathers held tightly against the body
- Leaning away
- Moving away
Signs of Heightened Arousal
- Eye pinning
- Raised crest
- Whole body bobbing
- Foot tapping against a perch (cockatoos)
- Tail fanning
- Facial blushing
Signs of Anger (“Go Away!”)
- Eye pinning
- “Hard” eyes
- Tail fanning
- Hissing (cockatoos)
- Growling (greys)
- Lunging / biting
- Swaying from side to side
- Raised feathers on certain areas
- Crouching with beak open
Signs of Sexual Interest or Romantic Love
- Beak clacking (cockatoos)
- Tongue wagging (cockatoos)
- Wing drooping
- Head bobbing
- Soliciting allopreening
- Seeks close physical contact
Putting It All Together
As stated previously, we won’t be successful in accurately reading avian body language unless we take all signs into consideration. Once we do, however, we can then take our cues from the parrot and respond appropriately.
If an Amazon parrot is fanning his tail, pinning his eyes, has his feathers raised on the back of his head and is leaning toward us with beak open, we are going to walk away and figure out another way to approach him that will not result in the aggression that is so obviously intended.
If we observe that our macaw is blushing, pinning his rounded eyes, swaying from side to side and slightly fanning his tail, we are going to conclude that this moment might not be the best time to ask him to step up. He is obviously in a heightened state of arousal and could bite just out of excitement.
If the Senegal we just adopted looks at us with rounded eyes, and stands up tall with feathers held tightly down, rapidly trying to scramble away from our approach, we are going to stop in our tracks realizing that perhaps this bird has more of a history of fear than we were lead to believe.
And, if our cockatoo clacks her beak at us as we remove her from the cage, begins to regurgitate, and then tries her best to scramble to a shoulder for a cuddle session, we are going to also stop in our tracks and realize that she has the wrong idea. We are not sexual partners. She belongs on a perch near you, but not on you.
Our Own Body Language
We must also exercise control over our own body language and use this to mirror that which the parrot offers. Since parrots communicate through body language, they are especially sensitive to ours.
Barbara Heidenreich said once, “If an animal is aware of us, we must be aware of the animal.” That is the cardinal rule, or should be, whenever you are in any animal’s presence. Many accidents and injuries could be avoided by following this simple advice. In general, the following rules will help to ensure your success when meeting new birds and in a variety of other situations:
- Move slowly.
- Keep gestures to a minimum.
- Use a low voice.
- Mirror the bird’s behavior – respond appropriately.
- Practice awareness.
Communicating with Parrots
All living creatures are hard-wired to behave upon the environment in such a way that they can gain access to the things that they want. When we live with a parrot, one of the most valuable pieces of information we can have is to know what things he values most and to then use them to reward the behaviors that we would like him to perform more often: talking rather than screaming, stepping up rather than moving away, going back into the cage rather than biting.
The mistake that most caregivers make is to assume that the parrot wants approval. They typically reward behavior by talking, with an enthusiastic “Good bird!” Frankly, I have seen no evidence that parrots care what we think. They don’t care if we approve of the behavior they just offered.
What they want is currency – hard cash. What is hard cash to a parrot? Usually, it is going to be some high-value food – typically high-fat nuts or seeds. It could be head scratches. It could be a bottle cap. It is up to each of us to investigate and discover what constitutes hard cash for each of our parrots. This is likely to be different for each one.
One we know what a parrot wants, success is just around the corner if we follow the following rules:
Living as a Trainer
- Realize that every social interaction is a learning moment for the parrot.
- Use positive reinforcement for all cued behaviors so that the parrot has control – he understands what he can do to acquire the things that he wants.
- Get into the habit of asking yourself, “What am I reinforcing right now?”
- Every interaction with a parrot must be a dialogue.
- When training
- When handling
- When offering a treat.
- Practice respect.
- Allow them control.
- Give them a choice.
I would like to see a new era dawn, when it comes to relationships between companion parrots and their caregivers. In order for those relationships to be problem-free and full of joy we need to understand each other. This means that we have to listen to them and behave in a trust-building manner by altering our own behavior based upon the messages that they communicate.
We then must offer them choices about how to behave and ensure that the behavior we want gets rewarded with a rate of exchange that ensures that this will continue to be offered in the future.
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I think at this point in my (old) life I have better conversations with (my) animals than some people. You’re so right about listening. Great read.
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Some statements about communication appear to be opinions that may be contrary to fact. For example, the idea that parrots do not care about our statements, thoughts, or praise is likely incorrect. These ideas originate with people who have little experience with verbal communication by birds, especially free speech by parrots.
The sad fact is that human are poor listeners and do not comprehend spontaneous speech by their birds. This is a reason why communication with aliens in the film “Close Encounters of the Third Kind” used musical notes to establish recognition of a message, idea.
Since most people do NOT record free speech, they do not learn to communicate with their parrots. I spent more than 20 years educating a parrot; parrots are able to learn principles of human language. Using a large vocabulary with knowledge of how the language works, parrots can and do express thought. I transcribed speech of birds unfamiliar to me for their owners, and owners confirm that I am right about what their birds said. The parrots state names of people, pets, names of towns, and other things that I could not know in advance of hearing their recordings.
It is work to make out what the birds say, and mostly there are very few records of free speech by parrot-like birds. There is an exception: my work with a macaw called Arielle, who developed a vocabulary approaching 6000 different words, phrases, and statements. Her recorded free speech reveals her thoughts, concerns, and ideas about things. Her statements made with no human present is documented in my book, “Another King of Mind: A Talking Bird Masters English.”
Some of the statements made by Arielle are shocking in that they show her ability to reveal the mind of a parrot using different learned and original English statements. What she says of her own accord makes sense, shows great awareness of her environment, and her concern for people about her. Parrots do care about their owners; we know due to those birds with adequate vocabulary to tell us so!
Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts. I appreciate all reader comments, even those I find to be irritating.
The fact that parrots understand human speech and can communicate in like manner was established long ago by the work of Irene Pepperberg and others. No one who has lived with a parrot for any length of time would assert otherwise, nor did I. Further, OF COURSE parrots care about their owners. You quite obviously, in your rush to negate my message, missed it.
My post was quite practical in intent, not an intellectual discussion of speech in parrots. It is of some amusement to me that you would use 343 words to take issue with my own communication when you have quite obviously not been an attentive reader yourself. I established my audience quite early on in my post – those who struggle with behavior problems. No behavior problem is ever going to be solved through verbal communication. If it could, I would not be making a living as a parrot behavior consultant.
Those who’s parrots bite them and scream endlessly or destroy their own feathers are long past any impression that talking and listening through verbal communication might make. Instead, in order to prevent these problems and to resolve them, people need instead to read body language and motivate their birds through the use of positive reinforcement into more desirable channels of behavior. My goal is to keep parrots from losing their homes, not debate the speech ability of psittacines.
Ka ka …kaww kaww! Poo poo? Except for the last paragraph the rest is not really useful for the average person. 20 yrs and 6000 words, really how many can do that ? This is your “Alex ” ? I do agree self generated “speech ” should be studied as with Koko much was reveled and commend you on your diligence and will look for your book. Pam I think this is one of the most useful posts in the field and would add that a negative reinforcement i.e. CAT protocol, is useful too , but is a confusing concept to most and a much longer post. Frans de Waal, Irene Pepperberg, Penny Peterson, and Fouts and others that worked with Washoe would agree that is is not so much what you say but how (tone) and why (intention) you say it. But words can get in the way. I often use hand signals…for example: I just point and there is a lot of tone range in that gesture at a feral cat “aggressing” another and they all know who I mean at that time (social facilitation) until the offender sees the error and corrects their own fool self thereby self-reducing the anxiety level (negative reinforcement) eventually a harsh glare is enough. Wow that was a long sentence but you get the point😝
I do. Personally, I find the CAT protocol amazing for achieving quick results. However, the reaction of others is often perplexing. I did a consult with a dog trainer who has a shy parrot a few days ago. She voices opposition to using CAT because she uses only R+. And, in so doing, she had pushed the parrot to step up so many times that the bird attacked violently. Words, words, words. Oh my.
Enjoyed the article, thanks!
That’s so funny to me because I teach to dog “trainers” that excessive R+ (Includes petting ) just turns you into a slot machine or drug for unstable critters or children even. Which then becomes about untraining. In falconry you are taught to not speak use only whistles or tongue clicks… don’t buy clickers folks… too slow and traps your hand . In addition, tongue clicks have a useful tone range. I have had people freaking out because they lost their magic clicker 🙀 In falconry you are a supposed to be partner at best but I have had a couple very special birds that would snuggle when cold. Very special experience and Falconers usually don’t share that. Contact comfort is primal drive that shouldn’t be denied nor excessively applied…he said with five feral cats laying on him😼Don’t need a heater😺 Keep up the good work 😽
I just remembered something my favorite Bx professor said: “What all organisms really want or need is secure proximity to a consistent primary source of positive reinforcement…they can’t eat it all now anyway…so what is really important is that it/ you are going to be there …when they are done pooping on your Persian rug😬he is Phdunny and just got a new poopy💩 One of the few I met with a sense of humor and humility…He asked me to help him to understand canine poopy behavior. Fixed it in three days ! A dog 🐕is not a rat🐀…I sure you get that Pam…emojis are sign language 😌👍🏻
Susan Friedman came to Cockatoo Downs this past year for an invitation-only training retreat that Chris Shank put on. She gave a mind-blowing (to me) presentation on control as a primary reinforcer. Same message as your Phdunny professor.